I have taken some time off. From here, from the gym, from eating healthy, from trying to do the right thing. My self improvement journey has been great but somewhere along the way I started sacrificing my social life to get more ‘me time’. To have more time by myself to do all the things I never ended up doing. I didn’t see friends for weeks and forgot what a bar looks like.
So when my birthday week came and friends started reaching out with wishes and questions about my bday celebrations I decided to ditch all my newly formed habits of a grown up and somewhat successful person and went out to dinners and bars pretty much every night. It didn’t take long to realise I was in my element. And, contrary to popular belief, this element was not C2H5OH but just a simple social interaction somewhere outside. To both see the people I met up with as well as to observe strangers. I love observing strangers. It’s probably my very first hobby I developed and cultivated for years.
This made me realise that really all of the #girlboss wannabes and high achieving people fail to mention how important it is to make time for your friends and loved ones. And yes, quick meeting for lunch may be nice but I mean, just spend that bloody time together! Don’t time it, don’t try to squeeze the one most fundamental need of every human being in between learning your 7th language, meal preping so your body can stay in ketosis and your next crossfit session. These are all important but what makes us humans, what makes us better humans are other humans. And my humans are the best and I am really glad I took this time off to just spend unlimited time with everyone.
We are profoundly social creatures
Experiencing the pleasures and pains (hangover..) of social life again reminded me of a book I started reading but never finished – Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect. In this book psychologist Matthew Lieberman explores groundbreaking research in social neuroscience revealing that our need to connect with other people is even more fundamental, more basic, than our need for food or shelter. He argues that our need to reach out to and connect with others is a primary driver behind our behaviour. Research using fMRI shows that our brains react to social pain and pleasure in much the same way as they do to physical pain and pleasure. “Based on the latest cutting edge research, the findings in Social have important real-world implications. Our schools and businesses, for example, attempt to minimalise social distractions. But this is exactly the wrong thing to do to encourage engagement and learning, and literally shuts down the social brain, leaving powerful neuro-cognitive resources untapped. The insights revealed in this pioneering book suggest ways to improve learning in schools, make the workplace more productive, and improve our overall well-being.” Go read!
And here’s a good video about the brain too. Only slightly related to the above, yet incredibly important to remind ourselves that we are all good at something!
Since I have missed so many posts in the last week I guess this will be a bonus post. Everything all together. Yay!
So now that we know that all of us can have different types of intelligence and that we need other people to stay sane I will share my new favourite things that I have received as gifts from my wonderful friends <3
- This incredibly cute power bank – Cheero Power Plus Nyanboard Portable charger
- Possibly the best chocolate on the planet brought over all the way from the Netherlands – Tonys Choco Lonely
- This notebook I always wanted but never bought for myself because I’m supposed to use up all the million notebooks I already have but now I got it as a present so I am very happy – Leuchtturm1917 A5 Notebook
- This Aesop The Constant Gatherer Set with the most beautiful packaging I will probably never throw away because it’s too beautiful and never use because it’s too special:
Thank you so much for reading, for being here and for being my friend.
Now back to my usual routine!